The Chart is from the US Dept of Agriculture
I guess for a person in recovery it would be a personal decision. One does have to eat, and if it bothers you, then you probably should not choose the item on the menu that has a wine sauce or liqueur in it. If you are choosing the meal because it has alcohol in it, then you probably should choose something else.
Sometimes, a person may be a guest at someone’s home and won’t know that a dish was cooked with alcohol and probably won’t be in a position to ask beforehand. Again, I believe it’s up to the individual whether they will have meals that are cooked with alcohol. Talk to someone in your support network.
Don’t let anyone judge you for choosing Yea of Nay.