Have people in your life that, when you make plans with them, they use ink on their calendars and not a pencil.

Hey, I’m an addict, I have stickin’ thinkin’. Whenever someone pencils me in I immediately think that if something better comes along they will just do that instead. It has happened to me before, and I was given to excuses like, “I forgot,” “I thought I told you,” and whatever else. Some of the excuses may be honest and true. I get it; life happens.

When I make plans, that’s the plan I make. If something terribly exciting comes along I still stick to my plans with whomever and decline any other offers. That’s just me. If there is an opportunity to extend an invitation to the person, I have a previous engagement with; bring them all, buy them a ticket, et al.. I will make the suggestion to them, and if they decline (that’s OK), I will stick with our original plan.

Like I said, life happens. There are circumstances, at times, out of one’s control, and plans do change. Maybe for the better. Time is precious, I would think that one deserves to know where they stand & what’s going on ASAP. I try and do that and deserve that in return.

Now it may seem that I am inflexible and premeditated; lacking spontaneity. That is not true. There are feelings that are kicked up for me when I am ‘penciled in’. Feelings of less-than, undeserving, fear of abandonment, not being good enough, fear of rejection et al… and that just from being told I was penciled in, or last minute cancellations, or I having to find out myself (I mean, come on! Are we not adults?); I should not have to initiate the conversation for your lack of balls. Totally projecting! I know. Now imagine if the plans actually do change and I am left out. Those feelings suddenly become my reality even though the other party’s intent was not to harm me; my feelings are real to me. Knowing these feelings, I try not to have others feel them too, so I try to respect their time, every time. I am punctual and honest about my availability. Anything else I ‘could’ have do? Oh well, maybe it’s not that deep. I can do things on my own. At least I know what’s on my schedule

I use pen on my calendar (period!)

Funny how people are saying that the Mayans were wrong. Wrong about what? Know one really knows… Why don’t we know? Hmmm…. maybe because White settlers killed them off by force and disease.

We have calenders that we hang on our kitchen walls or in our cubicles at work and they cycle through every 12 months. Imagine if we suddenly stopped making calendars… Would 2013 be our last year? I think not.

Maybe if the greedy, genocidal savages that took their land and destroyed their culture were not out to conquer and were truly explorers, then we would know more about the 5000 year calendar and the Mayans.

We have to chop down trees to create millions upon millions of calendars each year… The Mayan made carvings that have lasted centuries… They were onto something! Those that could not see that, or were afraid of it were in the wrong.

‘Tis a shame that they are not around to carve out another 5000 years and teach us a few things about life.

I am keeping that faith… I am going to stay in the belief that we have entered a new era… an era of Love and Peace. I may not see it all come to fruition in my lifetime but I do believe it has begun.

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